Successful ‘Adulting’

I have a Tuesday night ritual where I meet friends at a local coffee shop or brewery to check-in with one another, discuss the books we are reading, deliberate current events, share how our families are doing, commiserate about work and tell stories from our week- the essentials of Community. Missing a Tuesday night reinforces how important my community is in the rhythm of my week not only because I miss out on hanging out with interesting people, but because how apparent it is that others miss me when I…

An Other Kingdom – Practice of Listening

  I have been told that I speak in a tone that is very hard to hear. When I speak, I often have people ask me to repeat  what I say when they don’t just politely stare at me with a quizzical countenance. Not being heard has created a great source of frustration in me. Exploring this challenge with those closest to me has returned suggestions to ‘speak up’, ‘talk in a higher tone’ or ‘be more assertive’.  I have suggested that perhaps the challenge is not in the tone…